On the surface, the trend of gender-neutral parenting seems laughable: raising your child to not identify with their biological gender, to most parents and sensible human beings, seems impossible.
That’s not stopping certain “woke parents” from trying, though.
For some insane reason.
These parents, unlike many on the left, at least seem to acknowledge that gender is biological, but they combat this pesky reality by literally hiding which gender their children are. No, seriously.
In what some call the trend of “theybies” (“babies” isn’t actually a gendered term, but whatever), a growing number of parents are trying to raise their children in actual denial of the child’s “assigned” i.e. biologically determined gender.
The Daily Wire explains how this works:
“Is Zyler a boy or a girl? How about Kadyn? That’s a question their parents, Nate and Julia Sharpe, say only the twins can decide. The Cambridge, Mass., couple represent a small group of parents raising ‘theybies’ — children being brought up without gender designation from birth,” NBC News reports.Advertisement - story continues below
The answer is clear: Zyler and Kadyn, who are twins, each have a biological gender, but that gender is kept secret from friends and relatives, and even from the kids themselves (though potty training seems like it might require an in-depth conversation). The theory is that the less they-bies know about their gender, the less likely they are to be “pigeon-holed” into a gender binary.
There is, naturally, some criticism of parents trying so hard to strip their children of their biologically determined gender:
Not everyone thinks raising they-bies is a good idea, after all, much of the world isn’t woke enough to lack “gendering,” and raising a gender-neutral child could set that child on a path to confusion and bullying.
“Once your child meets the outer world, which may be day care, or preschool, or grandparents — it’s pretty much impossible to maintain a gender-free state,” one professor told NBC. “And depending on how conventional your community is, you could be setting your child up for bullying or exclusion.”
The they-bies’ parents NBC spoke to say they’re okay with that, because they’d prefer their child to be bullied than to be a bully, and they believe forcing a child into a gender is much more “coercive” than name-calling.
Progressives are so weird, it’s like everything they believe is counter-intuitive. They demand that everyone has a right to determine what their gender is, but turn around and try to raise children without a gender at all.
So which is it, is gender something definitive that one can identify for themselves as they choose, or is it something that should be ignored all together?
And isn’t the whole thing about transgender acceptance to reduce bullying for transgender people? So why brush off concerns that raising a child without a gender could set them up for bullying throughout their whole childhood? Do we suddenly not care about the supposed horrific damage bullying does to a child’s young, impressionable psyche?
Science (good old science) tells us that the vast majority of “gender-neutral” children end up identifying with one gender or the other, and of course, transgenderism is far less common than 2018 progressives would like you to believe, so parents who are trying to use the people they’ve been charged with raising as props for virtue signaling might not go very well for anyone:
Only .06% of the world’s population is authentically transgender, and woke parents who might want a more “progressive” bona fide — having a trans-gender or gender-neutral child — won’t get it simply by raising a child without gender roles.