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DAVIDSON: In Confusing Times, Master Your ‘To-Be’ List

‘To-do lists have high utility, but what about composing a to-be list?’

Jeff Davidson

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How long will COVID concerns last? How will my income be affected? Who will be inaugurated on January 20th? These and so many other issues have many people wondering what comes next and, in particular, what do I do next? Perhaps what to “be” is more important now than what to “do.”

Virtually every career professional maintains some type of to-do list, whether it’s as simple as a few notes on a page or a comprehensive electronic system. To-do lists, as most people know, have high utility – the items on the list are constant reminders as to what we want or choose to get done. What about composing a to-be list, containing a roster of the characteristics and traits that you’d like to attain or improve upon?

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Happily, you can start from scratch. You can enter on to your list any characteristic, trait, or value that appeals to you, regardless of the life you have led up to this moment. All of your setbacks, as well as your triumphs, the observations you’ve made, the lessons you’ve learned, the insights you’ve gathered, and the perspectives that you now maintain can be brought to bear as you compose your to-be list.

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As you consider “how you want to be,” inexorably, you move in that direction. As a young man, to employ a personal example, I chose to write books in areas where I personally needed to become more adept. When I felt a lack of breathing space and more stress at the end of every workday, with my stomach in knots, I sensed that a better way to proceed in life had to exist.

Years back, I wrote the book Breathing Space initially as a form of self-guidance, knowing that once finished, it would also help others. Likewise with other books, such as Simpler Living, Dial it Down-Live it Up, and even The 60 Second Self-Starter, when I finished writing the last page, my journey towards becoming the type of person I want to be would receive a major boost.

What traits do you want to embody? What have you not explored that lingers on the periphery of your consciousness? What or who do you want to become? You have the capability within you to move in that direction, and one fine day, you might find yourself exactly where and who/what you wanted to be.

Enervating and Disarming

Considering who and what you’d like to be could, at first, be disarming. After all, few people fixate on what they want to become as opposed to what they need to do. Most people proceed directly to listing the projects and tasks that will help them to accomplish specific goals. Most times the goals are work-related, but often they are personal in nature as well.

Without identifying and acknowledging who you want to be, you can miss the forest for the trees. Periodically it’s vital to make the cerebral link between the tasks that we accomplish and the roles and positions to which we aspire.

Producing a to-be list helps you to put in motion an array of behaviors and activities that will increase your probability of becoming the person you wish to be. For each to-be that makes your list, a variety of to-do type tasks become associated.

Leadership? Your Choice

Suppose you aspire towards leadership, for example, and your to-be list includes “to become a leader.” As such, you are inexorably drawn to those tasks and activities that will help you to accomplish your goal. Such tasks might not necessarily be those that normally make your to-do list.

On the path to becoming a leader, beyond effectively executing the assignments you are given, you might also choose to read one book on leadership each month, observe the leaders in your own organization, volunteer for situations which enable you to exhibit leadership skills, and start addressing articles, interviews, and features on leaders in your industry, geographic area, or those whom you simply admire.

Suppose you seek to be a better partner to your spouse or significant other. You might find yourself gravitating towards a variety of activities that traditionally would not have made your to-do list. In becoming a better partner, perhaps you enroll in a course (with or without your partner) on relationships, perhaps you speak at length with friends who have been in long and successful relationships, or perhaps you listen to a CD on becoming a more effective listener, and so on.

New Exploration

The items that make your to-be list might require new types of exploration. You might find yourself attracted to events and activities that are new to you, or find yourself associated with others with whom you previously felt you had little in common. At some point, you find yourself trying new behaviors, putting yourself into novel situations, and asking others for advice on new topics.

The great news about composing a to-be list is that the mere act of composing the list increases the probability of your movement in the desired direction. The positive, self-fulfilling progress that you make, compared with previously doing nothing of the sort, significantly puts the odds in your favor.

Paraphrasing Abraham Lincoln, when we make up our minds to accomplish something, we are already halfway there. He was right on the mark. Deciding to move in a particular direction and intending to take action to support your decision is the precursor to actual movement and achievement.

Allow yourself the wonderful opportunity to become the person you truly want to be. Starting with a blank piece of paper or a blank screen, list four to six characteristics, traits, or attributes you desire to embody. You do have it within you to succeed.

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TX School Administrator Suggests Teaching ‘Opposing Viewpoints’ to The Holocaust

State level authorities were quick to shut that theory down.

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There is apparently some sever confusion in the Lone Star State regarding the nature of a new law regarding public school curriculums, and it has many around the nation alarmed.

The idea of school as a place to open your mind and absurd a variety of different viewpoints is nothing new.  In fact, it isn’t hard to argue that this is perhaps exactly what the public education system should be doing.

But there are some viewpoints out there that do not meet the standard of our civilized society, and one school administrator in Texas appears to believe that the new law requires these heinous conspiracy theories to become part of the classroom.

A top administrator with the Carroll Independent School District in Southlake advised teachers last week that if they have a book about the Holocaust in their classroom, they should also offer students access to a book from an “opposing” perspective, according to an audio recording obtained by NBC News.

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Gina Peddy, the Carroll school district’s executive director of curriculum and instruction, made the comment Friday afternoon during a training session on which books teachers can have in classroom libraries. The training came four days after the Carroll school board, responding to a parent’s complaint, voted to reprimand a fourth grade teacher who had kept an anti-racism book in her classroom.

A Carroll staff member secretly recorded the Friday training and shared the audio with NBC News.

“Just try to remember the concepts of [House Bill] 3979,” Peddy said in the recording, referring to a new Texas law that requires teachers to present multiple perspectives when discussing “widely debated and currently controversial” issues. “And make sure that if you have a book on the Holocaust,” Peddy continued, “that you have one that has an opposing, that has other perspectives.”

State officials were quick to point out that this is not what the new law suggests.

Clay Robison, a spokesman for the Texas State Teachers Association, a union representing educators, said there’s nothing in the new Texas law explicitly dealing with classroom libraries. Robison said the book guidelines at Carroll, a suburban school district near Fort Worth, are an “overreaction” and a “misinterpretation” of the law. Three other Texas education policy experts agreed.

“We find it reprehensible for an educator to require a Holocaust denier to get equal treatment with the facts of history,” Robison said. “That’s absurd. It’s worse than absurd. And this law does not require it.”

Some lawmakers responded as well.

State Sen. Bryan Hughes, an East Texas Republican who wrote Senate Bill 3, denied that the law requires teachers to provide opposing views on what he called matters of “good and evil” or to get rid of books that offer only one perspective on the Holocaust.

“That’s not what the bill says,” Hughes said in an interview Wednesday when asked about the Carroll book guidelines. “I’m glad we can have this discussion to help elucidate what the bill says, because that’s not what the bill says.”

Denial of The Holocaust, (or the severity of it), has long been seen as a hallmark of white supremacists, and is considered a form of antisemitism.

There is apparently some sever confusion in the Lone Star State regarding the nature of a new law regarding public school curriculums, and it has many around the nation alarmed. The idea of school as a place to open your mind and absurd a variety of different viewpoints is nothing new.  In fact, it isn’t hard to argue that this is perhaps exactly what the public education system should be doing. But there are some viewpoints out there that do not meet the standard of our civilized society, and one school administrator in Texas appears to believe that the new law requires these heinous conspiracy theories to become part of the classroom. A top administrator with the Carroll Independent School District in Southlake advised teachers last week that if they have a book about the Holocaust in their classroom, they should also offer students access to a book from an “opposing” perspective, according to an audio recording obtained by NBC News. Gina Peddy, the Carroll school district’s executive director of curriculum and instruction, made the comment Friday afternoon during a training session on which books teachers can have in classroom libraries. The training came four days after the Carroll school board, responding to a parent’s complaint, voted to reprimand a fourth grade teacher who had kept an anti-racism book in her classroom. A Carroll staff member secretly recorded the Friday training and shared the audio with NBC News. “Just try to remember the concepts of [House Bill] 3979,” Peddy said in the recording, referring to a new Texas law that requires teachers to present multiple perspectives when discussing “widely debated and currently controversial” issues. “And make sure that if you have a book on the Holocaust,” Peddy continued, “that you have one that has an opposing, that has other perspectives.” State…

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Laundrie Lawyer Goes on the Offensive After TV Host Implicates Parents

Someone’s getting testy…

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The story of Gabby Petito’s death has captured the attention of the nation in recent weeks, largely due to the strange circumstances surrounding her disappearance, her fiancé’s unwillingness to cooperate with police, his parents’ bizarre behavior, and then, of course the fact that he went missing just hours before Petito’s body was found.

None of these things have screamed innocence in the eyes of the Americans who’ve been following along at home, and Laundrie’s disappearance has allowed speculation to run rampant.

This is true not only for the Joe Anybody, but for television detectives as well, and this hasn’t sat well with a lawyer for the Laundrie family.

Brian Laundrie’s attorney Steve Bertolino tore into “America’s Most Wanted” creator John Walsh Thursday, the morning after the longtime TV host aired an ID channel special on the unsolved homicide of the Florida man’s former fiancée, Gabby Petito.

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“Gabby Petito: ID Special Report” delved into the details surrounding the 22-year-old Petito’s slaying and Laundrie’s status as a fugitive on a federal bank fraud warrant.

Walsh has long suggested that Brian may have made a run for the border, or be hiding out on the Appalachian Trail – a place that he was once familiar with.

This is where Bertolino got testy.

“I absolutely believe that his family is helping him stay on the run,” said Walsh, who also hosts “In Pursuit with John Walsh” on ID.

Bertolino snapped back at such speculation.

“Dusty relics like that Dog and John Walsh need a tragic situation like this so they can clear the cobwebs off their names and give their publicity-hungry egos some food,” Bertolino told Fox News Digital, also taking aim at Duane “Dog” Chapman, the reality TV star and real-life bounty hunter who entered the search for Laundrie late last month.

Police have returned to the vast wilderness of the Carlton Reserve in their search for Laundrie, this time bringing K-9 units trained to detect human decomposition.

 

 

The story of Gabby Petito’s death has captured the attention of the nation in recent weeks, largely due to the strange circumstances surrounding her disappearance, her fiancé’s unwillingness to cooperate with police, his parents’ bizarre behavior, and then, of course the fact that he went missing just hours before Petito’s body was found. None of these things have screamed innocence in the eyes of the Americans who’ve been following along at home, and Laundrie’s disappearance has allowed speculation to run rampant. This is true not only for the Joe Anybody, but for television detectives as well, and this hasn’t sat well with a lawyer for the Laundrie family. Brian Laundrie’s attorney Steve Bertolino tore into “America’s Most Wanted” creator John Walsh Thursday, the morning after the longtime TV host aired an ID channel special on the unsolved homicide of the Florida man’s former fiancée, Gabby Petito. “Gabby Petito: ID Special Report” delved into the details surrounding the 22-year-old Petito’s slaying and Laundrie’s status as a fugitive on a federal bank fraud warrant. Walsh has long suggested that Brian may have made a run for the border, or be hiding out on the Appalachian Trail – a place that he was once familiar with. This is where Bertolino got testy. “I absolutely believe that his family is helping him stay on the run,” said Walsh, who also hosts “In Pursuit with John Walsh” on ID. Bertolino snapped back at such speculation. “Dusty relics like that Dog and John Walsh need a tragic situation like this so they can clear the cobwebs off their names and give their publicity-hungry egos some food,” Bertolino told Fox News Digital, also taking aim at Duane “Dog” Chapman, the reality TV star and real-life bounty hunter who entered the search for Laundrie late last month. Police…

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