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DAVIDSON: In Confusing Times, Master Your ‘To-Be’ List

‘To-do lists have high utility, but what about composing a to-be list?’

Jeff Davidson

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How long will COVID concerns last? How will my income be affected? Who will be inaugurated on January 20th? These and so many other issues have many people wondering what comes next and, in particular, what do I do next? Perhaps what to “be” is more important now than what to “do.”

Virtually every career professional maintains some type of to-do list, whether it’s as simple as a few notes on a page or a comprehensive electronic system. To-do lists, as most people know, have high utility – the items on the list are constant reminders as to what we want or choose to get done. What about composing a to-be list, containing a roster of the characteristics and traits that you’d like to attain or improve upon?

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Happily, you can start from scratch. You can enter on to your list any characteristic, trait, or value that appeals to you, regardless of the life you have led up to this moment. All of your setbacks, as well as your triumphs, the observations you’ve made, the lessons you’ve learned, the insights you’ve gathered, and the perspectives that you now maintain can be brought to bear as you compose your to-be list.

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As you consider “how you want to be,” inexorably, you move in that direction. As a young man, to employ a personal example, I chose to write books in areas where I personally needed to become more adept. When I felt a lack of breathing space and more stress at the end of every workday, with my stomach in knots, I sensed that a better way to proceed in life had to exist.

Years back, I wrote the book Breathing Space initially as a form of self-guidance, knowing that once finished, it would also help others. Likewise with other books, such as Simpler Living, Dial it Down-Live it Up, and even The 60 Second Self-Starter, when I finished writing the last page, my journey towards becoming the type of person I want to be would receive a major boost.

What traits do you want to embody? What have you not explored that lingers on the periphery of your consciousness? What or who do you want to become? You have the capability within you to move in that direction, and one fine day, you might find yourself exactly where and who/what you wanted to be.

Enervating and Disarming

Considering who and what you’d like to be could, at first, be disarming. After all, few people fixate on what they want to become as opposed to what they need to do. Most people proceed directly to listing the projects and tasks that will help them to accomplish specific goals. Most times the goals are work-related, but often they are personal in nature as well.

Without identifying and acknowledging who you want to be, you can miss the forest for the trees. Periodically it’s vital to make the cerebral link between the tasks that we accomplish and the roles and positions to which we aspire.

Producing a to-be list helps you to put in motion an array of behaviors and activities that will increase your probability of becoming the person you wish to be. For each to-be that makes your list, a variety of to-do type tasks become associated.

Leadership? Your Choice

Suppose you aspire towards leadership, for example, and your to-be list includes “to become a leader.” As such, you are inexorably drawn to those tasks and activities that will help you to accomplish your goal. Such tasks might not necessarily be those that normally make your to-do list.

On the path to becoming a leader, beyond effectively executing the assignments you are given, you might also choose to read one book on leadership each month, observe the leaders in your own organization, volunteer for situations which enable you to exhibit leadership skills, and start addressing articles, interviews, and features on leaders in your industry, geographic area, or those whom you simply admire.

Suppose you seek to be a better partner to your spouse or significant other. You might find yourself gravitating towards a variety of activities that traditionally would not have made your to-do list. In becoming a better partner, perhaps you enroll in a course (with or without your partner) on relationships, perhaps you speak at length with friends who have been in long and successful relationships, or perhaps you listen to a CD on becoming a more effective listener, and so on.

New Exploration

The items that make your to-be list might require new types of exploration. You might find yourself attracted to events and activities that are new to you, or find yourself associated with others with whom you previously felt you had little in common. At some point, you find yourself trying new behaviors, putting yourself into novel situations, and asking others for advice on new topics.

The great news about composing a to-be list is that the mere act of composing the list increases the probability of your movement in the desired direction. The positive, self-fulfilling progress that you make, compared with previously doing nothing of the sort, significantly puts the odds in your favor.

Paraphrasing Abraham Lincoln, when we make up our minds to accomplish something, we are already halfway there. He was right on the mark. Deciding to move in a particular direction and intending to take action to support your decision is the precursor to actual movement and achievement.

Allow yourself the wonderful opportunity to become the person you truly want to be. Starting with a blank piece of paper or a blank screen, list four to six characteristics, traits, or attributes you desire to embody. You do have it within you to succeed.

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Biden Looks Straight Into Camera, Says America Is ‘Morally Deprived’ — Watch

Proud American, right here.

John Salvatore

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He’s right. For once, Joe Biden is right. America is “morally deprived,” he just didn’t mention the people responsible for the decline. Because of far-left policies, this great nation allows women to get away with murder; allows lawbreakers and criminals to become citizens; and hands out “free” money to those unwilling to work. The only problem with Biden’s sentence is that he didn’t use the words “Democrats are” before “morally derived.” Biden blabbered, “I believe we are in a battle for the soul of this nation. And the simple truth is our soul be troubled as long as systemic racism is allowed to persist. We can’t eliminate ‘zimply’ overnight. We can’t ‘eliminateverthing.’ But it’s corrosive, it’s destructive and it’s costly. It costs every American. Not just who felt the sting of racial injustice. We’re not just less of a – We’re not just a nation of morally deprived because of systemic racism. We’re also less prosperous. We’re less successful. We’re less secure.” WATCH: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=33&v=OM6qa7WgFoU&feature=emb_title From Fox News: Biden revealed the federal government will purchase an additional 100 million doses of vaccine each from Pfizer and Moderna as part of its effort to ramp up the unprecedented vaccination drive. Even with the acquisition of more vaccine supplies, Biden warned that distribution will take time and other precautions, such as wearing masks, should remain a priority for Americans. “The brutal truth is, it’s going to take months before we can the majority of Americans vaccinated – months,” Biden said. “In the next few months, masks, not vaccines, are the best defense against COVID-19. Experts say that wearing masks from now just until April would save 50,000 lives that otherwise would pass away if we don’t wear these masks.” Sound off on Joe in the comments section…

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Biden: America ‘Has Never Fully Lived Up to the Founding Principles of This Nation’

He just loves America so much.

John Salvatore

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President Goofy said some pretty silly things about America and the Trump Administration on Tuesday afternoon. Better get used to hearing that. Unfortunately, whether we like it or not – or whether the country can hang on long enough – we’re stuck with Joe and Kamala. These people and their supporters loathe America. It couldn’t be clearer. WATCH: https://twitter.com/tomselliott/status/1354147571552440320 https://twitter.com/tomselliott/status/1354149480367595521 Reaction from Right Scoop: Americans have not bought into a zero sum game and that’s not how America operates. But this is the bizarrely skewed version of America that Democrats want Americans to believe is happening. Which is why they always drag out this tired and very dishonest propaganda. One of the things that makes America great is that everyone in this country has the opportunity to succeed as long as government stays out of the way. It doesn’t matter if someone grows up in poverty or with a silver spoon in their mouth. Just look at Ben Carson as a great example! Joe is attempting to make it clear that he will be the most “progressive” president this country has ever seen. Not good. Not good at all.

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