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DAVIDSON: The Joy of Doing Nothing

People are finding it hard to be alone with just their thoughts.

Jeff Davidson

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The speed at which the Internet, and being online, is dominating our lives is a modern phenomenon afflicting people on all sides of the political Spectrum. How did something that people lived without since the dawn of civilization suddenly become so compelling, that most people are demonstrably upset if they have to proceed without it?

Some psychologists today believe that our connection to the Internet is more of a compulsive disorder rather than an addiction. Moez Limayem, Ph.D at the University of Arkansas, conducted a study and found that “the underlying motivation to use a mobile phone is not pleasure,” as an addiction might indicate, “but rather a response to heightened stress and anxiety.” In other words, we don’t use our technology necessarily for pleasure, we use it in an attempt to feel less tense.

I am So Alone

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Increasingly, people are finding it hard to be alone, specifically alone with just their thoughts. When researchers sought to induce people to do nothing for a 15 minute segment, many people devised ploys to avoid such a ‘long’ stretch of time devoid of some type of activity. Surprisingly, not just millennials exhibited such behavior. Older adults and even seniors were not comfortable essentially doing nothing for 15 minutes.

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How exactly did we arrive at this state? Is it our fate as a species to be drawn into an ever fast-forwarding world where we demand of ourselves constant activity, or otherwise we feel uneasy, and perhaps even unworthy?

Reasonable Stretches

If it’s been a while since you’ve been able to sit still for a reasonable stretch and to be alone with your thoughts, it’s time to return to square one:

1) Recognize that stillness has value. Even if you’re not a meditation enthusiast, undoubtedly you’ve had times throughout your life when being alone with your thoughts was enlightening, perhaps even beneficial. While you are waiting to receive an award, and anticipate your name being called, the world tends to slow down. If a friend or loved one is sick, it is vital to be alone with your thoughts in your hospital waiting.

You don’t have to wait, however, for superlative or trying conditions. You can make a choice any time throughout the day that the next few minutes are going to be for quiet contemplation. Start with two or three minutes. Work your way up to eight or 10 minutes. The benefits will start to be evident.

2) Join a meditation class, especially if you have not previously done so. It is easier to begin the practice of meditation while surrounded by others with the same objective. Yes, you could do this at home or alone, certainly your computer or smartphone can assist you. All kinds of timers, guided meditations, and other meditation support elements are readily available.

Nevertheless, for beginners, meditating with others represents a viable launch pad. You are alone with your thoughts, concurrently recognizing that others are in the room, alone with their thoughts. Try a meditation class. You’ll be amazed at how comforting it can be.

3) Seek out stretches of time throughout the day or week when you’ll allow yourself to be alone with your thoughts. Have nothing scheduled when you’re willing to just shoot the breeze. Maybe you’ll sit in your chair and stare out the window. Maybe you’ll sit on a couch and close your eyes or, if not, let the world pass by slowly.

Such cerebral breaks throughout the day are innately rewarding. New thoughts might arise. New ways of proceeding that you had not previously contemplated could spring forward. Or, nothing of significance pops into your head. Fine.

Go Ahead, Trust Yourself

The great part about being alone with your thoughts for a few minutes here and there is that you begin to trust yourself more often. You recognize that you won’t miss out on something by taking a few minutes break. The world will still be spinning. You’ll still have your job, your relationships will be the same, and you can turn right back to what you are doing.

As a byproduct of taking this time, your pulse could decrease a bit, which is good. Your ability to take deep breaths might be enhanced, which is highly beneficial. In any case, let yourself into that wonderful mind of yours, for a while, before you jump back into the fray!

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Dem Rep. Implies National Guard Members Who Voted Trump May Target Libs At Inauguration

What a horrible thing to say!

John Salvatore

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We’re just over two weeks into the new year and we already have a quote that may hold up as the most ridiculous of 2021. Remember, this guy was elected to office. What does that say about the people who voted for him? It’s because of people like Goofy McGoofball in the clip below that America has become such a liberal cesspool. During a Monday appearance on CNN, McGoofball said, “You know I was thinking, the Guard is 90 some-odd percent male. Only about 20 percent of white males voted for Biden. You’ve got to figure that in the Guard, which is predominantly more conservative…there are probably not more than 25 percent of the people that are there protecting us that voted for Biden. The other 75 percent are in the class that would be in the large class of folks who might want to do something. There were military people and police who took oaths to defend the Constitution, who didn’t do it and were in the insurrection. So it does concern me.” WATCH: https://twitter.com/tomselliott/status/1351196676036435972?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1351196676036435972%7Ctwgr%5E%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Ftherightscoop.com%2Fvideo-democrat-argues-national-guard-members-who-voted-for-trump-may-be-a-threat-to-bidens-safety%2F From The Daily Wire: Democratic House Speaker Nancy Pelosi (CA) added to the already deep divide in our nation during a online meeting with constituents in San Francisco on Saturday, claiming the Trump supporters who breached the Capitol on Wednesday chose their “whiteness over democracy.” Pelosi said, “When that assault was taking place on the Capitol, 3,865 people in our country died of the coronavirus, many of them people of color because of the injustice of it all. The next day, on Thursday, 4,000 people died of the coronavirus. Why? Because decisions were made at the highest level, months before in the Oval Office, of denial, distortion, delay, calling it a ‘hoax.’” She added, “I thought it was going to be an epiphany for…

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WATCH: Melania Trump Delivers Powerful & Moving Farewell Message As First Lady

Gorgeous, as always!

John Salvatore

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She wasn’t unbearable like Hillary Clinton. She wasn’t as polarizing as Michelle Obama. But because she is married to Donald Trump, Melania Trump is the worst first lady in American history. That’s how the mainstream media will remember the woman who speaks five languages fluently; the former model whose mere presence is a sight for sore eyes. FLOTUS’s farewell message is one that should be replayed for decades to come. From New York Post: First lady Melania Trump on Monday released a nearly seven-minute farewell message urging Americans to choose “love over hatred” and “peace over violence.” The video filmed at the White House was posted to Twitter fewer than 48 hours before President Trump leaves office Wednesday at noon. “As Donald and I conclude our time in the White House, I think of all the people I have taken home in my heart and their incredible stories of love, patriotism and devotion,” she said. WATCH: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSEi-YBt-Uw&feature=emb_title

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