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God’s Incredible Truth About Special Needs Adoption

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Making room in your home, and in your heart, for a child who is not biologically yours is an amazing reflection of God’s grace and adoption of sinners, but it is not without its hardships and struggles.

Adopting a child with special needs can increase the tension in an already difficult process, and so many of these precious children end up without families because of what their care would entail.

When God adopted us into His kingdom, however, he didn’t hesitate for our flaws and imperfections, and the adoptive family who mirrors this finds such an immense reward.

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In a heartwarming piece for Relevant Magazine, author Scarlet Hiltibidal shares her amazing experience with adopting a little girl from China with special needs and the lessons God taught her through it all.

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Ya Zhu was almost four, but she couldn’t walk and wasn’t potty trained. There were concerns about her cognitive development.

Many doctors and specialists said we ought to proceed with ‘great hesitation.’ One told us not to move forward at all. They all agreed there must be something else very wrong with Ya Zhu because her delays were so significant.

But my husband and I managed to stay mostly peaceful. We didn’t know if Ya Zhu would heal and recover. We didn’t know how hard things would be. We didn’t know if she’d be a joyful child, but we decided to rename her ‘Joy.’ We hoped and prayed adopting her would give her hope and a future.

While embarking on the journey of adoption and knowing full well you are in for a challenge can surely cause a healthy degree of apprehension, Hiltibidal says she and her husband, by God’s grace, were able to proceed without an ounce of fear in their hearts.

God was leading us to Joy, and He was with us. He had come through in so many ways: checks from strangers to cover adoption fees at exactly the right time, comforting words from the Bible, people who moved our anxious hearts toward rest, doors opening and closing and freelance jobs falling out of the sky exactly as our adoption agency was asking for another payment. God was with us. He kept proving He was in the process and supporting it and leading it. We weren’t afraid.

In a moment of raw, authentic honesty, Hiltibidal reveals that it wasn’t until she actually met her new daughter that fear crept in.

We were convinced Joy would never walk, never learn, never leave diapers. I wondered if our family would ever laugh again. If we’d ever have an easy Saturday at the park. I wondered how much wheelchairs cost and what my other children would miss out on because of this decision we’d made.

But right there, in the middle of the scariest moment of the entire process, God reached down and touched Hiltibidal’s heart to remind her of one of His deepest truths.

He reminded me that I was, and so often still am, a child with special needs who doesn’t know how to rest in the love of her adoptive Parent. He reminded me that I am the little girl with broken ears and broken eyes and my hands clenched around everything I can grab, and yet He walked into this broken world so He could adopt me into His family.

Hiltibidal draws us back to Romans 8:15, which says, “For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, ‘Abba! Father!’”

Emboldened to follow the clear path God had set before her, no matter the challenges, Hiltibidal began to see His faithfulness and power in their new lives with Joy.

Joy is five now. She’s more than doubled in size since her adoption, is fluent in sign language and actually advanced in communication according to an evaluation from her school. With a hearing aid, she can hear and understand English, and after a year of physical therapy, her therapist suggested we discontinue her services because Joy no longer needs the extra help.

Life with Joy has become such an amazing blessing for her family. Not only does she enrich their lives with all the love, hugs, and learning experiences a child comes with, her special needs point the Hiltibidals to the Gospel on a daily basis.

In my life, God has used the world of special needs to make me stop depending on my life plans and my strength. Instead, He’s offered me His plan and His strength. When Joy’s special needs caused her to depend on me, I had no choice but to take my weakness to God.

I’m not strong. I’m not powerful. I’m not ‘normal.’ I’m as dependent as my special needs daughter. We are all dependent on the power of God for our next breath. Resting in that reality is what can give you and me the ability to look around and reach out and meet the needs of others, the way God reached down from Heaven to meet ours.

God has this wonderful way of structuring our lives such that we endure challenges designed specifically to draw us closer to Him and to teach us to be like Him. When those challenges involve our children, what a wonderful insight we gain into the heart of our Father in Heaven.

 

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The Systemic Antisemitism Of the Woke Culture and Modern Leftism

They claim to be fighting against hatred, but truth is there is systemic antisemitism of woke and cancel culture which media doesn’t report.

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The far left has been injecting Antisemitism into the American political discourse since the early 1970s when leftist African American leaders such as Jesse Jackson, Andrew Young, Louis Farrakhan, and the beloved bigot, Al Sharpton, all went public with their Antisemitism. One would think that in today’s times of wokeism and cancel culture, the Jew-haters of the left would be exposed, shamed, and weeded out of the leftist movements. However, the opposite is happening. antisemitism of woke culture According to Melissa Langsam Braunstein of the National Examiner, fighting Antisemitism can get you canceled. Woke theology teaches that Jews are privileged oppressors. So, when Jews are literally assaulted on the streets by the Left’s political allies, the incidents become Rorschach tests. Many view Jews as victims, but the woke prefer to intimate that Jews must be the aggressors. As a general rule, leftists don’t blame victims unless they’re Jewish. One thing you may have noticed with the rise of Anti-Semitic attacks in the U.S. concurrent with the recent Israel-Hamas war is that Antisemitism is that in most cases liberals didn’t criticize anti-Semitic attacks without mentioning Islamophobia despite the fact that there was no actual link between the two. But that’s not totally new. In 2019 when some Democrats wanted to rebuke Rep. Omar for her Antisemitism, the Congressional Black Caucus blocked the resolution because it didn’t mention Islamophobia. Instead, they passed a generic resolution that basically said that being mean to others is bad. Really? I learned that lesson when I was a child watching programs such as Romper Room, Howdy Doody, and Captain Kangaroo. As for the Jew-hating Rep Omar, she not only voted for the measure but celebrated it as a step toward fighting Islamophobia. At the end of June 2021, “April Powers, previously Chief Equity and Inclusion Officer…

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How to Keep Your Kids From Becoming Liberal

here is beauty and goodness in a community of like-minded families.

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Socialism, atheism, hyper-sexualism, wokeism, and the belief that America is evil is now the norm in government schools. I saw this coming years ago before my wife and I started our family which led us to homeschool our children. But we quickly learned that simply schooling at home was not enough. Please read the following message from my wife. It could save your family a lot of heartache, like it saved ours. Brandon Vallorani, Founder of Flag and Cross and Thrasher Coffee I began homeschooling in 2000, when my oldest daughter turned 4 years old. Armed with my bachelor’€™s degree in education and a lifelong desire to teach, I felt confident in my abilities. By 2012, our dream of a full house came true. We now had 7 children ages 16 years old down to newborn. Life was crazy but good. In the midst of raising an infant, toddlers, and teenagers, I had begun to notice some serious learning struggles with one of our children. Over the next two years, I sought help anywhere I could turn. Desperately trying to fix our problems, I scheduled appointments for testing with child psychologists and made numerous changes to our homeschool routine. Countless hours were spent in prayer. Nothing was working. I was overwhelmed and on the verge of quitting completely. And then I attended an informational meeting about Classical Conversations. Immediately inspired, my plan was to save€ the youngest members of our family by joining a Classical Conversations Community. I had been homeschooling for 14 years without a support system, and we all needed friends to stand in the gap. At this informational meeting, I learned about Classical Christian education: grammar, dialectic, and rhetorical stages. I saw a Director light up as she described the beauty of the program. They spoke about…

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