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How Do You Quit Being An Alcoholic?

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31 years ago I was considered an alcoholic. I was drinking (and drugging) every day, and I was an extremely lost and lonely young man. Unlike the other college freshman around me who were also drinking and drugging, many for the first time, this was not my first rodeo. I was at the tail end of a six month bender of daily heavy drinking. I had started drinking and taking drugs when I was 12 years old. Not a week went by without some substance being entered into my body and brain. But this last bout was different than those earlier childhood binges. It wasn’t fun anymore, and I could tell I was slipping both mentally and emotionally. I began to get shaky at around 10 in the morning after a night of bourbon or vodka. A couple stashed beers would make my stomach stop flip flopping and the shakes would drift from my hands where it would get noticed, to deep inside where I could force them to hide when the alcohol hit my bloodstream.

I can remember looking around at the other freshman who’d just started drinking when they got to the dorms for those first couple months and jealously thinking, “Man, they are having fun.” I hadn’t been having fun partying in a long, long time – years actually. The juxtaposition of their drinking and drugging habits and mine were stark. I wasn’t partying – I was drinking just to stave off withdrawal. I struggled to socialize and to get to class. Sometimes I would lose track of which day it was because I drifted in and out of blackouts. But the hardest part about all of it wasn’t the downgrade in my physical health or social status, it was the intense loneliness and anxiety I lived with daily.

That was 1988. I was 18 years old. I was in deep trouble and I knew it. I did quit drinking not long after this. I had been arrested and spent a night in jail because of a DUI accident I’d been involved in and I determined it was time to change my life. I detoxed myself over the course of the following week. I do not advise doing this. If I knew better at the time I would have gone into a hospital. I was naïve to the dangers of alcohol withdrawal. The days it took to free myself from the physical dependence were not fun and later on I found out my detox experiment could have been tragic.

The Two Parts of Making the Change

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Once past the physical dependency issue, I was much more clear headed. I realized I was at a crossroads. Deep inside I already knew most of the ideas I’d learned in the AA meetings I’d attended throughout my adolescence were nonsense. I intuitively knew that addiction was not a disease. I mean think about it; I quit while in active withdrawal. If that isn’t enough to convince you that you’re not powerless or diseased, nothing will.

A few months after I quit, the courts mandated me to long term treatment. I’ve written other articles on this 18 month saga, and I will let those pieces tell that part of the story. For this article, I want to stay focused on how I changed, not on how treatment sent me on a near suicidal distracting goose chase for a year and a half.

Making the Mental Shift

Making the mental shift to change my life came in two main parts, and after working with substance users for more than 31 years, these two components are present in nearly everyone’s conscious decision to change their substance using lifestyle.

First, I wanted to stop drinking and drugging. The way I know that’s true is simple – I did, in fact, stop. There were many other months and years prior where I thought I wanted to “get sober” but my actions belied the truth – I continued to drink and take drugs. The difference was that when I saw the possibility that my life might be better without substances than it had been with them, I made the change and detoxed myself. Every other prior attempt to change was marked by the thought that sobriety looked like a giant struggle marked by being deprived of what I still loved. And so, no surprise here – I didn’t quit.

In my case, the car crash and ensuing DUI arrest were just symbolic – they weren’t the cause of my quit. I did however, use them as a public excuse to make the change to abstinence. Try to remember, at the time, my entire self image was wrapped up in my drinking; how much I could drink; how I drank; and all the ways that played a role in my life. So somewhere in my mind I felt I needed to have some big event to initiate my shift to sobriety. The crash and arrest were that catalyst to push me over the edge and admit to myself that yes, abstinence looked better than constantly being drunk and a mess. In summary, you need to want to be sober before you’re going to be sober.

This brings me to the second half of my motivation to change; a self image that does not include the alcoholic label. To really move on from an addiction, you’ll need to let go of the idea that you are different from the average Joe. For me, that change in self image manifested in my mind with an image of myself as a “good citizen” who was healthy, athletic, and honest. I was anything but that in my last year of drinking, and that fact disgusted me. I knew exactly who I wanted to be, and to be that, there would be no practical room for being hammered or to constantly remind myself of what I used to be. I needed to let go of the alcoholic ideal and I had to let go of the defining myself as a “person in recovery” as well.

Right from day one I focused on being the guy I dreamed of being. My life moved along and the image of me as an alcoholic, a drug addict, and even a recovering alcoholic, all faded into my past along with the drinking itself. I HAD MOVED ON.

When you finally see using less substances, or no substances as the happier option, you will quit or moderate easily. Then after you have quit or moderated, you can move on from your past struggles completely by having and working towards a self image that does not have any links to addiction, treatment, recovery or anything attached to that lifestyle. Then, like me, you too will know true freedom.

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DirecTV Removes Conservative News Network in Blow to Free Speech

The move is just the latest incident in which conservative bandwidth has been arbitrarily limited, and it certainly won’t be the last. 

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In our nation, we’ve long held the belief that the diversity of opinion is a tool for sharpening our abilities and ingenuity.  The freedom to speak as you want is the best way to keep the evil among us from snatching up the entirety of the American Dream for themselves, and it levels the playing field among the masses.

That it why the latest move from DirecTV is so egregious.

The largest satellite provider in the United States said late Friday it will drop One America News, a move that could financially cripple the rightwing TV network known for fueling conspiracy theories about the 2020 election.

The announcement by DirecTV, which is 70% owned by AT&T, comes three months after a Reuters investigation revealed that OAN’s founder testified that AT&T inspired him to create the network. Court testimony also showed that OAN receives nearly all of its revenue from DirecTV.

The sudden change comes after years of cooperation.

DirecTV, with approximately 15 million subscribers, is by far OAN’s largest carrier. According to testimony by OAN’s accountant reviewed by Reuters, DirecTV provided 90% of the conservative network’s revenue.

“We informed Herring Networks that, following a routine internal review, we do not plan to enter into a new contract when our current agreement expires,” DirecTV said in a statement.

The OAN-DirecTV contract is set to expire in the next several months. DirecTV began airing OAN in April 2017, a deal that began shortly after OAN and AT&T settled a lawsuit over alleged oral promises during negotiations.

The move is just the latest incident in which conservative bandwidth has been arbitrarily limited, and it certainly won’t be the last.

In our nation, we’ve long held the belief that the diversity of opinion is a tool for sharpening our abilities and ingenuity.  The freedom to speak as you want is the best way to keep the evil among us from snatching up the entirety of the American Dream for themselves, and it levels the playing field among the masses. That it why the latest move from DirecTV is so egregious. The largest satellite provider in the United States said late Friday it will drop One America News, a move that could financially cripple the rightwing TV network known for fueling conspiracy theories about the 2020 election. The announcement by DirecTV, which is 70% owned by AT&T, comes three months after a Reuters investigation revealed that OAN’s founder testified that AT&T inspired him to create the network. Court testimony also showed that OAN receives nearly all of its revenue from DirecTV. The sudden change comes after years of cooperation. DirecTV, with approximately 15 million subscribers, is by far OAN’s largest carrier. According to testimony by OAN’s accountant reviewed by Reuters, DirecTV provided 90% of the conservative network’s revenue. “We informed Herring Networks that, following a routine internal review, we do not plan to enter into a new contract when our current agreement expires,” DirecTV said in a statement. The OAN-DirecTV contract is set to expire in the next several months. DirecTV began airing OAN in April 2017, a deal that began shortly after OAN and AT&T settled a lawsuit over alleged oral promises during negotiations. The move is just the latest incident in which conservative bandwidth has been arbitrarily limited, and it certainly won’t be the last.

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My Pillow CEO Blackballed by Banking Institutions Over ‘Reputation Risk’

The left is taking their war on conservatism to absurd new lengths.

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As the 2022 midterm election remains just over the horizon, casting an already dark cloud over the coming months, there has been a concerted effort among those on the left side of the aisle to exploit the events of January 6th, 2021 for political gain.  And, as Democrats continue to fear for the worst in 2022, they are casting an ever wider net.

The tactic is essentially spray and pray:  Throw subpoenas and accusations all over the place, and then beg the heavens above that something sticks.

This is making life very difficult for those who are, or were once, associated with Donald Trump.  This includes the CEO of the My Pillow corporation, Mike Lindell.

During a Friday episode of right-wing political strategist Steve Bannon’s War Room podcast, Lindell claimed that Heartland Financial and Minnesota Bank and Trust are attempting to “de-bank” him over concerns that they could face fallout related to having him as a client. During the podcast, Bannon and Lindell played an audio recording that they said was a call with a bank official.

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“Just because of our organization saying, ‘Well, why are we connected with somebody that could be in the news.’ And, not that the FBI is even sniffing and looking, but what if somebody came in and said, ‘You know what, we are gonna subpoena all his account records…and then also we make the news,'” the person in the recording said. “So it’s more of a reputation risk.”

Lindell went on to tell Bannon that the financial institutions want him to shutter his accounts within 30 days. But the pro-Trump businessman insisted that he is refusing to comply.

“I said, ‘I am not being part of this. I’m not leaving. So you’re going to have to throw me out of your bank,'” he said. During the segment, Bannon put the phone numbers and contact information of top officials at the institutions onscreen—urging supporters to call and complain.

And, finally…

“Where does it end everybody? Where does it end?” Lindell asked, suggesting that he is being persecuted for his controversial activism. He contended that the banks’ decision was related to his refusal to comply with the House select committee investigating the January 6, 2021 pro-Trump attack against the U.S. Capitol.

As the January 6th committee grows bolder and brasher, we should perhaps expect more examples of such political discrimination to make headlines.

As the 2022 midterm election remains just over the horizon, casting an already dark cloud over the coming months, there has been a concerted effort among those on the left side of the aisle to exploit the events of January 6th, 2021 for political gain.  And, as Democrats continue to fear for the worst in 2022, they are casting an ever wider net. The tactic is essentially spray and pray:  Throw subpoenas and accusations all over the place, and then beg the heavens above that something sticks. This is making life very difficult for those who are, or were once, associated with Donald Trump.  This includes the CEO of the My Pillow corporation, Mike Lindell. During a Friday episode of right-wing political strategist Steve Bannon’s War Room podcast, Lindell claimed that Heartland Financial and Minnesota Bank and Trust are attempting to “de-bank” him over concerns that they could face fallout related to having him as a client. During the podcast, Bannon and Lindell played an audio recording that they said was a call with a bank official. “Just because of our organization saying, ‘Well, why are we connected with somebody that could be in the news.’ And, not that the FBI is even sniffing and looking, but what if somebody came in and said, ‘You know what, we are gonna subpoena all his account records…and then also we make the news,'” the person in the recording said. “So it’s more of a reputation risk.” Lindell went on to tell Bannon that the financial institutions want him to shutter his accounts within 30 days. But the pro-Trump businessman insisted that he is refusing to comply. “I said, ‘I am not being part of this. I’m not leaving. So you’re going to have to throw me out of your bank,'” he said. During the…

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